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Kuwait Times, June 9, 2007

Three Teens Held for Rape Attempt

A source revealed that three 18 year old boys were walking on a pedestrian path in Mishref and they saw a 22 year old girl walking on the same path. The teens then tried to rape the girl, but she started crying and she tried to call police. Then the youths assaulted her. She recorded the plate number of the gang’s two cars then the teens got afraid and tried to fabricate a story and called police before her. When the police came, and saw the girl and the boys, she started crying and told police that they sexually assaulted her. First, they denied but following an intensive investigation they confessed and started BEGGING THE POLICEMEN TO RELEASE THEM BECAUSE THEY HAD EXAMS. (emphasis added by blogger) The police filed a case and referred the boys to the authorities.

My comment: You do the crime, you do the time. You have exams? What do you think you have done to this young 22 year old gal’s life??? You terrorized her!

And bravo to the judge in California who put that little ferret Paris Hilton back in jail, too.

June 10, 2007 - Posted by | Bureaucracy, Communication, Community, Crime, ExPat Life, Family Issues, Health Issues, Kuwait, Living Conditions, Mating Behavior, Relationships, Social Issues, Women's Issues


  1. This is really sick! Mishref is supposed to be one of the safe places to walk in Kuwait. All this happens and then they big for exams!

    Comment by Bashar | June 10, 2007 | Reply

  2. Good for the policemen for believing the girl, rather than blaming her for walking alone … or even simply for being a girl, out in public. and good for her for keeping her head and 1) trying to call the police and 2) getting the license plate of their car.

    I hope those three are put in jail for years.

    Comment by adiamondinsunlight | June 10, 2007 | Reply

  3. ahaaam shay!! we have exams? well if you have exams then stay at home and study, not go out assaulting girls!!!
    its scary for a girl to walk alone in Kuwait, thats sad

    Comment by shoosha | June 10, 2007 | Reply

  4. this girl is gonna be terrified every time she goes for a walk , imagine that ! terrorized in ur own country !

    Comment by Sailor | June 10, 2007 | Reply

  5. Mom was assaulted a few years back by some boys at some intersection. Anyhow, they got caught almost 2 yrs later because one of them boasted about the ‘feat’ in a diwaniya. One was an honor student in the military academy, his dad begged mom to drop charges.

    All 4 are still serving prison time. 🙂

    I sort of don’t believe the story in the papers, too much conflicting info.

    Comment by Mini R. | June 10, 2007 | Reply

  6. I agree, Bashar, Mishref is one of the loveliest places in Kuwait to walk, and it has always had a safe feel. It makes me sick these guys are so self-absorbed that they would think exams would get them out of jail. I hope the woman’s parents press charges. Every time these guys get away with stuff like that, it teaches them the wrong lesson.

    Question: if a man is charged with rape here, even if he gets set free – wasta or whatever – does it hurt his chances for a good marriage? Like I would want that information if my daughter received a proposal of marriage – a man accused of rape?

    Comment by intlxpatr | June 10, 2007 | Reply

  7. Little Diamond – I have always been so impressed with how women keep their heads in these desperate situations, getting critical information like license plates, DNA, etc. You would be amazed.

    Comment by intlxpatr | June 10, 2007 | Reply

  8. Shoosha – GREAT point! Why weren’t they at home studying???

    Comment by intlxpatr | June 10, 2007 | Reply

  9. Sailor – I hope she won’t give up walking. I hope she will find a walking partner – always a safer bet for a woman who wants to keep fit.

    Comment by intlxpatr | June 10, 2007 | Reply

  10. MiniR- WOW! Your Mom is a hero! She stood her ground! She didn’t back down! You must be so proud to have her for a Mom, and I hope she is doing OK. Mash’allah. All four in prison – you have made my day. *dancing for joy around the room*

    All the newspaper crime reports sound weird. I know they self-censor. I know they are sometimes trying to tell us something that can’t be said openly. I don’t have enough pieces to get a full picture a lot of the time and that’s why I print some of these – like with the couple and the cop; I got a whole lot of information I didn’t have before, and now I understand better.

    thanks for sharing your Mom’s ordeal, and it’s amazing outcome. Thanks be to God.

    Comment by intlxpatr | June 10, 2007 | Reply

  11. See what I mean? It’s too dangerous to be walking alone in your own area. And our cops are too busy busting couples sitting in their cars.

    Comment by EniGma | June 10, 2007 | Reply

  12. You said everything I wanted to say!! Glad to see some justice in this world!!

    Comment by Nora-Cassandra | June 10, 2007 | Reply

  13. A guy (I rejected) tried to rape me 2 years ago, and would hit me when I tried to resist. I still resisted, and was able to escape after a huge struggle. I went straight to my family, who went to the police station.

    Let me tell you though, the cops were on my side right from the beginning. If a girl comes to them and blames a guy, they would be on her side until they have absolute proof that she’s lying. Even without proof, if it’s only my word against his, they will still take my word.

    Of course I had proof that I was beaten up. My hymen was not torn, but slightly damaged. The cops sort of gave me a choice, he goes to jail and my reputation is trashed, or I drop the charges and he learned his lesson from spending 3 days in jail. His family even came and offered that we get married. My family said NO WAY.

    I dropped the charges against him..

    Becuase if I press charges he’ll go to jail.
    If he’s in jail, then people are going to ask why.
    When they ask why, my name will come up.
    It will affect me, my sisters, my family.

    I can still remember this incident vividly to this day. I did not, however, let it ruin my life. Unfortunately, he got away with nothing but a little slap on the wrist. Nothing is on his record. His chances for marriage are not hurt. Of course, if I had pressed charges, my chances would most likely be non-existant. It was selfish of me, I know. But even if I wanted to hurt my chances, I do not want to hurt my sister’s chances of getting married because of a mistake i made.

    Pardon me for posting anonymously. My email’s still visible to you, though.

    Comment by Anonymous | June 10, 2007 | Reply

  14. Enigma – Your point is well taken. And I thank you for taking the time and energy and effort to help educate me, and our non-Kuwaiti readers.

    Nora-Cassandar – I haven’t seen you for a while! Welcome back!

    Comment by intlxpatr | June 10, 2007 | Reply

  15. Anonymous, dear one, I worked for two years with rape victims (in case some of you are wondering why I seem so over-the-top about rape) and learned so much respect and admiration for women, and how they handle this issue.

    Your choice is YOUR choice, and you made your choice with consideration, in consultation with your family, and in the context of this culture. No one should dare criticize you for that. You sound very grounded, very squared away. I pray life has worked out well for you.

    People don’t realize that life goes on, and that there are good reasons NOT to take on the identity of “victim”, too. It was also a brave choice, and it sounds like you got a lot of support. Thanks be to God. And I hope you have been rewarded with a satisfying life.

    As for the man – I suspect he suffers seeing you happy and unaffected. And of course, he will have to pay in the end of times. I just wish it would have more effect on his marriageability. What family would want a man like that proposing for their daughter?

    Thank you, dear one, for writing.

    Comment by intlxpatr | June 10, 2007 | Reply

  16. We need a rape crisis center. Knew a few who’ve been raped. I even wrote a couple of posts about 1 person.

    Anyhow, yep I have a tough mom. & I sure am proud of her. 🙂

    Rapists belong in the electric chair. No excuse. I prefer that they bite the bullet, though. I’m just being nice.

    Comment by Mini R. | June 11, 2007 | Reply

  17. Yes, Mini R, Kuwait needs a Rape Crisis Center. And it needs to have volunteers first to educate the police, hospitals and public about the crime and about how victims react, and how they need to be treated.

    Secondly, the line needs a large and varied populations of volunteers with skills for dealing with the many different kinds of rape experienced in Kuwait. I think there need to be Philipina volunteers, and some male volunteers, and people specializing in children . . . it’s a long path, but one that is desperately needed.

    Is your Mom an organizer?

    Comment by intlxpatr | June 11, 2007 | Reply

  18. Nope she’s not, it was an idea I’ve developed a year or so ago with some friends. The thing is, Q8is wouldn’t admit to a stranger that they’ve been raped. And consider another thing, incest happens in the country too. It’s just hush-hush & not many would admit to it happening.

    A crisis center such as this would need gov’mint approval. And as you said, we need different types of professionals. Maybe bring in the people from the crisis center in UAE to educate the masses here? I dunno, but there are several ideas rolling around in my head & driving me nuts.

    Comment by Mini R. | June 12, 2007 | Reply

  19. Mini-R, I support your effort. While rape is hushed is almost every country, a rape victim of any nationality often needs to talk. Surprisingly, it is often easier to talk with a stranger.

    Many of the victims I worked with I never met – we talked on the telephone. Those who wanted our help we would provide support from initial contact, with the hospital exam, with the police and photographers (for evidence at trial) and through the trials, when the victims pressed charges. After the trial, we provided continuing emotional support. For some it takes longer to overcome the trauma that it takes for others.

    Every victim is different, but most usually need support of some kind. Anonymous tells us in her case the police in Kuwait were totally supportive, which is something they weren’t in the U.S. Hospitals need to have rape kits on hand and specific procedures developed for handling victims, including offering the services of a rape crisis volunteer – or professional. (We had volunteers because at the time there were no professionals dealing with rape victims.)

    I hope your Mother is past the trauma now, and leading a full and satisfying life. That’s the best revenge.

    Comment by intlxpatr | June 12, 2007 | Reply

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