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Stress Management

A friend sent this to me today – she knows I am going through a hard time. And she’s the kind of friend who would bail me out of jail and say “didn’t we have fun?!”

A lecturer when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked “How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g.

The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter.

It depends on how long you try to hold it.

If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem.

If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm.

If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance.

In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the h eavier it becomes.”

He continued,

“And that’s the way it is with stress management.

If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later,

As the burden becomes increasingly heavy,

We won’t be able to carry on. ”

“As with the glass of water,

You have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again.

When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden.”

“So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down.

Don’t carry it home.

You can pick it up tomorrow.

Whatever burdens you’re carrying now,

Let them down for a moment if you can.”

So, my friend p ut down anything that may be a burden to you right now.

Don’t pick it up again until after you’ve rested a while.

Here are some great ways of dealing with the burdens of life:

*Accept that some days you’re the pigeon, and some days you’re the statue.

*Always keep your words soft and sweet, Just in case you have to eat them.

* Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.

* Drive carefully. It’s not only cars that can be recalled by their maker.

* If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.

* If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.

* It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply be kind to others.

* Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won’t have a leg to stand on.

* Nobody cares if you can’t dance well. Just get up and dance.

* Since it’s the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.

* The second mouse gets the cheese.

* When everything’s coming your way, you’re in the wrong lane.

* Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.

* You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.

* Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.

* We could learn a lot from crayons… Some are sharp, some are p retty and some are dull. Some have weird names, and all are different colors, b ut they all have to live in the same box.

*A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

June 24, 2007 - Posted by | Community, ExPat Life, Family Issues, Friends & Friendship, Health Issues, Humor, Kuwait, Living Conditions, Relationships, Spiritual


  1. Nice way of putting it.. hard to apply it practically tho
    we tend to forget

    Comment by Vinnie | June 24, 2007 | Reply

  2. Interesting!

    Comment by Я | June 24, 2007 | Reply

  3. I like it. It reminds me of that song in the late 90’s…I can’t remember the name…something about ‘always wear your sunscreen’. 😀

    Comment by Carly | June 24, 2007 | Reply

  4. “Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once”

    so so true 😛

    Comment by sknkwrkz | June 24, 2007 | Reply

  5. “If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague” – *howling laughing* 🙂

    Comment by adiamondinsunlight | June 24, 2007 | Reply

  6. Vinnie – I think the main point – putting down your burdens from time to time – is the one to remember. The rest is just fluff.

    Nice to see you, R!

    Carly – the Kurt Vonnegut speech?

    Skunk – Adventure Man’s favorite is from Calvin and Hobbes: Live and Don’t Learn, That’s Us! Always makes me laugh.

    Little Diamond – kinda true of our family, huh? How we all roll our eyes when someone says “how interesting.”

    Comment by intlxpatr | June 24, 2007 | Reply

  7. LOL, howling along with LD! Family trait, indeed.

    Comment by sparkleplenty | June 24, 2007 | Reply

  8. I say if the glass of water is too heavy.. heck drink it!

    Comment by bu ziyad | June 24, 2007 | Reply

  9. That’s it; although, I was reading about it, and it said that that was mistakenly attributed to him but was written by Mary Schmit(?)from Chicago Tribune. Here is a link to the lyrics:

    Comment by Carly | June 25, 2007 | Reply

  10. Bu Ziad – Excellent thinking outside the box! Or. . . hmmm, maybe that is internalizing the problem?

    Carly – I think you are right, that the attribution to Vonnegut is urban legend, but oh, what fun. And oh, how I miss Kurt Vonnegut.

    Comment by intlxpatr | June 25, 2007 | Reply

  11. Hope whatever hardship you’re going through is releived soon habeebty. I really liked this post. Maybe we shouldn’t drink the glass but instead pour some of what’s in it in an empty glass a freind holds out?

    Comment by 1001 Kuwaiti Nights | June 25, 2007 | Reply

  12. Loved them, I’m going out to make some more mistakes 🙂

    Comment by Elijah | June 25, 2007 | Reply

  13. Zin – your “outside the box” answer blew me away – of course! Let a friend share the burden! What a good answer!

    Elijah – kind of like that song “my favorite mistake” 😉

    Comment by intlxpatr | June 25, 2007 | Reply

  14. Nice one. Love Bu Ziyad’s and 1001’s comment.

    But sometimes people just splash the water into other people’s face when it becomes too heavy instead of handing the glass over to them:D

    Just today I read a quote by Aristotle kinda related to handling stress: “Anyone can become angry–that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way–this is not easy.

    I just realized it’s related to anger not stress 😀 Aaahh well anger brings about stress and stress eventually leads to anger. It’s a nice quote anyway 😀

    Comment by Magical Droplets | June 26, 2007 | Reply

  15. Nice quote indeed!

    Comment by intlxpatr | June 26, 2007 | Reply

  16. Thanks for the glass of water.

    Being my first day back at work, I needed that.

    Comment by heartodarkness | June 28, 2007 | Reply

  17. Oh, Heartodarkness, it is SO hard to come back to work after a really really good vacation. Hope you had a great time.

    Comment by intlxpatr | June 29, 2007 | Reply

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