Here There and Everywhere

Expat wanderer

C’mon By for some Birthday Cake

Today, Here There and Everywhere is 2 years old. I cannot thank you enough for the treasure of your friendship. My life, here in Kuwait, without your greetings and your input, would be much poorer. You have enriched us all with your perspectives, with your good will, with your humor.

I thank all of you, bloggers, non-bloggers, even those who come by regularly and never say hello. Thank you most of all to Google, Safat, and those of you who have mentioned me to others, and who have stopped by regularly. Bless you all. 🙂

I remember, when I first started, maybe 30 people a day would come by. Probably six of those were me checking the site to see if anyone had come by!

I found the most amazing website while I was looking for some sparkly cakes to serve you as you come by to say hello:

Pink Cake Box, out of Denville, New Jersey. This lady is doing some of the most adorable, lively, original and fun cakes I have ever seen. It looks like she is having a good time – and what a dream come true, to be having a good time and making money, too.

Here is a picture of her and her brother ( a doctor) and a cake they made together:

There’s full strength coffee from the Pacific Northwest, Chai, Hot English tea and Lapsang Souchong, some fruit juices, and maybe a little something stronger for those of you who are not Muslim.

I am posting this after sundown so as not to torture those of you who are fasting for the month of Ramadan. May your fast be blessed.

September 6, 2008 Posted by | Blogging, Community, Entertainment, ExPat Life, Friends & Friendship, Kuwait | 23 Comments

Marriage Improves With Age

This is from AOL News, and you can read the rest of the interview/ article by clicking here:

Couples Improve With Age, Book Says
By Nanci Hellmich, USA Today

(Sept. 3) – Married couples in their later years often show a great deal of affection, says best-selling author Maggie Scarf, 77, who has spent more than 30 years studying relationships.

“There’s intimacy. There is pleasure in each other’s company. They say to each other, ‘I love you more than ever.’ ” Scarf’s new book is ‘September Songs: The Good News About Marriage in the Later Years,’ released Sept. 3. She has been married for 55 years to Herb Scarf, 78, a Yale professor.

They have three daughters. Scarf shares her insights with USA TODAY.

Q: How would you describe your marriage?

A: Like any other couple, we’ve had our ups and downs at times. We haven’t ridden through 55 years on a cloud of bliss. But the fact is we have always remained committed to each other. We have a lot of fun. My husband has a tremendous sense of humor, and we laugh a lot. He is my best buddy.
Herb is the person who knows everything about me. And I know everything about him. At least we think we do.

Q: What is the U-shaped curve in marriage that you describe in the book?
A: There have been pretty influential studies over the past 40 years that show a couple’s contentment is at its highest in the earliest phase of marriage.

Then you get to know the other person’s foibles and faults. Kids come along and you lose sleep and you want the other person to do more than they are doing. Then you are negotiating on a daily basis with your adolescents, and your sense of contentment and well-being go down during that time.
But as the nest starts to empty, your sense of well-being, contentment and time for intimacy go up. The U-curve begins to rise. You rediscover the person you knew early on.

I like it that she shoots straight that her marriage was not always a bed of roses. Couples whose marriages survive have to work hard to keep a marriage alive. When the kids start coming along, there are so many demands on your time, so many distractions, it is hard to keep a marriage fresh and thriving. The good news is that all the good times come back.

Read the rest of the article HERE.

September 6, 2008 Posted by | Family Issues, Marriage, Mating Behavior, News, Relationships, Social Issues | Leave a comment