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Attempt to Kidnap Kuwaiti Girl: Print Their Names

From the Arab Times

Here is what scares me about this story – the language. It says “the side glass of the car broke.” That is very neutral language. I am pretty sure that the girl who was the intended victim would not break the glass; it was part of the barrier protecting her from the would-be kidnappers. It bothers me that it doesn’t state that the man broke the car glass attempting to kidnap the girl.

It also bothers me that the language says that they have been “detained for interrogation.” These men are a danger to society. They need to be locked up, for their own good and for the sake of the innocent young women who are their potential victims. There are witnesses, including the police. Enough! Try them, convict them and put them away!

It is also time to start publishing the names of the men who commit these acts. Would you want your daughter to marry such a man? Your cousin? Your sister? Doesn’t a woman have a right to know what sort of man she is marrying? Yes, it would shame the families from which the kidnappers have come. It seems that maybe shame is the only effective tool for deterring this kind of shameful behavior. If the families forbade this kind of behavior, you would see a drastic drop in the crime of kidnapping. Print their names.

Women are not the only victims. These same entitlement-loaded kidnappers seize boys and young me off the streets, sometimes lure their own friends, take them to the desert and rape them. What are they thinking? What makes them think they have that right? What makes them think there will be no consequences for bestial behavior?

Police save Kuwaiti girl from kidnappers’ clutches in Shaab Entertainment Park

KUWAIT CITY, Oct 2: The Hawalli police recently foiled at attempt by two Kuwaitis to kidnap a female compatriot from the parking lot of the Shaab Entertainment Park, reports Al-Shahid daily.
It has been reported as the victim was about to pull out of the parking lot, the youths blocked her way with their car and one of them got down from his vehicle and tried to drag the girl into his vehicle.

At this point the victim strongly resisted and in the confusion the side glass of the car broke. The victim then cried for help and a passing police patrol went to her rescue.

Seeing police the suspects grabbed the victim’s handbag containing her personal documents, cell phone and money and tried to escape but police chased and arrested them.

They have been detained at the Hawally Police Station for interrogation.

Predators prey on those they perceive to be weak and without protection. We, society, are supposed to be protecting the weak. When this man is refused sex, he and his friends try to rape the man, and trash the entire massage parlor?

Kuwaiti Man attempts to rape Jordanian massageur

KUWAIT CITY, Oct 2: An 18-year old Jordanian teenager reported at Jahra Police Station that a Kuwaiti man attempted to rape him while he was massaging the suspect inside a men’s salon — where the complainant works, in the Industrial Area on Thursday.

He narrated the man offered to pay him certain amount of money if he acceded to his demand for immoral act, which the complainant turned down and immediately asked the suspect to leave the salon.

He stressed the suspect later tried to kidnap him, which he resisted, so the suspect fled with his friends, but they destroyed some contents of the salon before fleeing the scene. However, he managed to record the number plate of the suspect’s car, which the detectives found out it belonged to a Kuwaiti man. A case has been registered against the suspect.

October 4, 2009 - Posted by | Crime, Cultural, ExPat Life, Family Issues, Kuwait, Living Conditions, Mating Behavior, News, Social Issues, Women's Issues

18 Comments »

  1. God. What awful stories. Re: the first: I think that she might have been in the process of being dragged out of her car – like, her car door wasn’t shut all the way, or wasn’t locked, and she grabbed onto the open door as the man tried to pull her out. How utterly terrifying for her – and good for her for “strongly resisting”.

    I can’t believe that they then tried to take her handbag. Something is strange here: they wanted rape, but as a second option, they would take cash and a mobile?

    I hate to sound like my mother, but: are these guys on drugs?

    Comment by adiamondinsunlight | October 4, 2009 | Reply

  2. I think that most disgusting things that were allowed in Kuwait after Liberation was the Shisha shops and the massage parlors . Both businesses should be outlawed on health grounds .Health of the nation and health of the individuals.

    Comment by daggero | October 4, 2009 | Reply

  3. You are right, the words chosen to report the incidents is weird. Why not write ”She put up a strong defrense” or even a ”strong fight”
    What with the ”glass was broken” Why not ”The criminals smashed her window”????

    It’s like they try to eufemise the crime itself?

    Comment by Aafke | October 5, 2009 | Reply

  4. Little Diamond, With her ID and mobile, maybe there are ways to blackmail her – that would be my guess. Who can understand what these guys are thinking? Or – are they thinking? As for drugs – it is a potent one. Entitlement.

    Hmmm, Daggero. I have to struggle with that one. There are shishas in many of the restaurants we go to, shishas down in the Souk Mubarakiyya . . . I think shisha has been around for a long time. What is it about shisha that offends you? As for the massage parlors – I have serious concerns about the qualifications of many of the masseurs and masseuses. Even in some of the good hotels, I sometimes wonder . . . I used to get massages, but some of them were so creepy that I’ve stopped.

    Comment by intlxpatr | October 5, 2009 | Reply

  5. Aafke – Exactly. When language itself draws attention by its vagueness, it makes my little ears perk up, makes me like a little cat focused on catching a bird. You have to ask “what is missing here” and “what is that language hiding?”

    Sometimes, it is hiding a reporter who is afraid of the consequences of reporting too accurately – and sometimes, in the Gulf, it is the messenger, the witness, who ends up in trouble.

    Comment by intlxpatr | October 5, 2009 | Reply

  6. A few months ago some bedoons kidnapped a married woman near our locality with the intention of selling her to a brothel but then when they found out her husband and the police were looking for her they fled! Imagine if she has been a runaway maid like the hundreds of others in Kuwait, there would have been no escape!

    Comment by Mathai | October 5, 2009 | Reply

  7. Mathai – What is SO disgusting is that when maids who have been sold into prostitution are found, they are put in jail as prostitutes. There is no allowance made for the fact that they were abducted, or drugged, or beaten, or forced to have sex with multiple men against their will and had no choice. Our church has been involved in helping some leave the country, and the barriers put up are despicable. The maids are treated as if THEY are the problem, when the real problem is the jerks that use them like tissue and throw them away.

    Comment by intlxpatr | October 5, 2009 | Reply

  8. This is horrific, and I agree the language is vague. But I think it’s more of a problem of bad reporting or lack of information than anything intentional. I think they really don’t know what broke the glass – did the criminal break the glass? Or did the car hit the girl’s car and break the glass? What happened? Maybe the “confusion” is an indication that the reporter is the one who’s confused. It seems that they are trying to report but don’t have the exact details so in order not to give false information they’re giving fake information instead. Plus they already made the accusation and everything so it doesn’t make sense to me that after saying all that they’d shy away from saying that the criminals broke the glass. Really, I think you guys are reading too much into the vagueness aspect.

    What’s really scary for me though is the location of the crime. Outside an amusement park! An amusement park! Aren’t there a lot of people there? I always feel safe in places where I feel there’s a lot of people. Should I feel unsafe in open outdoor parking lots located near amusement parks!?!

    Print their names? I don’t know. It’s so unfair to their families and sometimes I think to have one guilty person get a free pass is better than having ten, twenty, thirty innocent people getting punished.But I am of two minds when it comes to this. I think rape specifically is heinous and perhaps even worse than murder. Maybe it’s ok to punish a village for this. No. I don’t know.

    (Intlxpatr, lately there’s been discussions about the kind of stuff that happens in sheesha places. Some of them have regular prostitutes there and some men go there for that.)

    Comment by 1001Nights | October 5, 2009 | Reply

  9. “in order not to give false information they’re giving fake information instead” IS MEANT TO BE “in order not to give false information they’re giving VAGUE information instead”

    Sorry! 🙂

    Comment by 1001Nights | October 5, 2009 | Reply

  10. 1001 – you make some good points. I am guessing you are right about not having enough information and NOT wanting to give wrong information.

    I know the names thing is controversial, but how else do you get the attention of these young men who seem to feel that their behavior is OK? This is not a rare occurence in Kuwait. It may also be common in Qatar, I don’t know, it may be that it is not reported at all, here. I know it happens. The victims tell me so. One thing I am very sure – if their names were printed in the papers, the families would come down hard on the men who brought shame on their name and the pressure would be on to cease the behavior.

    Oh. I didn’t know about the prostitution thing at the sheesha places. Oops. and Yikes.

    Comment by intlxpatr | October 5, 2009 | Reply

  11. I know it may not be a rare occurrence but I’m not sure it can be described as common either. Rare or common, the perpetrators must be brought to justice. I am not, however, under the impression that that isn’t happening now. I actually think the law comes very hard on these guys as it should and moreover the police do good work in catching them. I’m not talking about brothels here but about rape cases.

    It’s horrific what you mentioned about forced prostitution and this is the first time I hear of it happening in Kuwait, women getting drugged and all. I understand it’s a much more difficult crime to tackle especially since many are not forced into prostitution but actually chose that path despite that it’s illegal. How can you tell the criminals from the women forced into it? It’s really really sad.

    Comment by 1001Nights | October 5, 2009 | Reply

  12. You are right, 1001, and one of the things I most admire about Kuwait is the courage to print the crimes that are happening and to deal with them. It’s not like abduction is unique to any one area of the world. It’s not like Kuwait pretends like it isn’t happening.

    The most common situation I have heard with the forced prostitution would curl your hair. Maid unhappy with employment meets sympathetic older woman of same nationality who encourages her to abscond, tells her she will help her find another position. Meets absconder with “friend” in a taxi and whisks her off to a location where she is beaten, drugged, kept locked up and forced to perform several times per day. The ‘sympathetic older friend’ is a recruiter and gets paid a bounty on women she brings in.

    Comment by intlxpatr | October 5, 2009 | Reply

  13. That’s disgusting. How can someone do that to someone else? My goodness assassins have more mercy than that.

    Comment by 1001 Nights | October 5, 2009 | Reply

  14. Being betrayed by a seemingly sympathetic older woman from your own country – and finding yourself with no control whatever over your own life, forced to do things you would never otherwise do . . . it would be a living hell.

    Comment by intlxpatr | October 5, 2009 | Reply

  15. It would seem to me that the “Shabaab” in Kuwait is in need of some serious “rehaab”(pardon the pun); rehab from boredoom, from enforced segregation and from a near total absence of books and letters in their lives. You also get a lot of wayward youth straying in from across the border in neighboring Saudi bringing with them their deviant behaviour and bawdy attitudes toward women.

    Comment by Chair of Erotic Studies at Kuwait University | October 5, 2009 | Reply

  16. The saddest thing in your whole comment, Chair, is “from a near total absence of books and letters in their lives.” I think everything you said is true, and very very sad for them.

    Comment by intlxpatr | October 5, 2009 | Reply

  17. i completely agree, print their names. i have been advocating for a while that Kuwaiti newspapers get the pair of cojones to publish names of sex offenders, as well as those engaged in illicit human trafficking and visa trading of migrant workers. Name and shaming is a great deterrant for future criminals, especially in a society like this where reputation is huge.

    Comment by Victoria | October 20, 2009 | Reply

  18. Wooo HOOO Victoria! Thank you for putting it all together concisely and cogently.

    I look for what would work, what would have an impact on KUWAIT society, and I think naming and shaming would slow down the activities you mention in a drastic and measurable way in Kuwait.

    Comment by intlxpatr | October 20, 2009 | Reply


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