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Stay With A Violent Man, You End up Dead

No, no, this was not Rihanna and Chris Brown, it just sort of SEEMED familiar, like their story. Bottom line, Law and Order SVU is saying, if a guy hits you, abuses you, it is not likely to get better. You stay, you risk, at the very least, continued and increasing damage at best, increasing violence toward those you hold dear, even brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers and CHILDREN to the self-centeredness of the violent abuser, and ultimately, many abuse victims end up dead. It’s not a story about Rihanna and Chris; it’s a story about every woman who stacks up economic realities against a violent outcome and chooses to stay.

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‘Law & Order: SVU’ Tackles The Chris Brown-Rihanna Story Of Abuse, Reconciliation

It’s a staple of the “Law & Order” franchise to rip stories straight from the headlines. For the latest episode of “Law & Order: Special Victims Unit,” the case was one that is very familiar to music fans, and remains as controversial today as it was when the story first broke in 2009. Using obvious counterparts, “SVU” tackled the Chris Brown and Rihanna story.

Brown assaulted Rihanna in 2009 before the Grammy Awards. The two have since reconciled and have remained linked romantically off and on since then. In the “SVU” episode they were Micha and Caleb. Just like Rihanna, Micha was assaulted by Caleb. The case went to trial, but the two reconciled. But “SVU” took their story further down a dark path.

In this fiction, Caleb finally went too far and killed Micha. “Shocked fans gathered in Manhattan tonight to mourn the death of rising talent, Micha Green, whose body was discovered a few hours ago in Bermuda,” a reporter said in the aftermath of hear death.

Did they take it too far? E! wondered that very thing, while Hollywood Life worried that the ending could hit too close to home for the real couple, writing, “Overall, the show took some liberties … but pretty much wrapped things up exactly as they are: Chris is a violent man and Rihanna accepts a bad man in her life. How sad!”

February 28, 2013 - Posted by | Crime, Law and Order, Living Conditions, Mating Behavior, Relationships, Women's Issues | , , , ,


  1. This is close to home. Erika is working at our local abuse shelter and at the same time doing an independent study on domestic violence for her Psych degree. There are some horrendous stories out there. You would be so proud of her, like I am. She is also trained as a Sexual Assault Response Advocate for which she in on call and is planning to take the training for the Crisis Hotline and volunteer for that as well. She is so good at talking down hysterical callers. A born counselor.

    Comment by momcatwa | March 1, 2013 | Reply

  2. I am proud of Erika! That is hard work! I cross trained in domestic violence when I was working the Monterey rape crisis line; it was a real eye-opener. Sometimes, I want to pull the SVU detectives aside and say “back off. This person needs to regain a little control over her own life before she makes any decision.” That was the hardest – and most effective – lesson that I had to learn, to respect the will of the victim, no matter how much I wanted her to choose differently. It’s HARD. And if solid, centered, women like Erika don’t do it, who do the victims have?

    Comment by intlxpatr | March 1, 2013 | Reply

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